Wayward Love
Tia Normandy
Junior editor-in-chief
Dear Tia,My boyfriend and I have dated for ten years now.
We met our first year in college and have been
together since. I love him with all of my heart, yet,
lately I’m starting to doubt if this relationship will
work. We’ve talked about marriage on again and off
again. Though, it is more me asking and him not
responding. I love him and I want to be with him, but I
feel our relationship is at a standstill. I’m ready for
marriage and kids. What should I do?
All the best,
At a Crossroad
Dear At a Crossroad,
I think there are a few important questions you need
to ask yourself. If he chooses not to commit to
marriage, are you willing to move on with your life,
without him? If so, then the next question is: are you
prepared to possibly find a new guy who may lead you
down the same path? Will it be easier for you to start
over and chance falling in love with another man who
may not be ready to settle down for another ten years
as well?
This is tricky. In your current relationship you have
in some ways already built a home. He may not think
of marriage the same way you do. Have you talked
about possibly skipping the ’I do’s’ and having
children? Will you be able to settle for those terms?
Who’s to say if you end your current relationship, and
move on to the next or the next or even another after
that, that you will find what you shared with your
present beau? My advice is to take a step back and
look at all angles. Try to not only look at the day-today
aspects, but a one year to five year plan. Then sit
down with your partner and lay it all out. Tell him how
you feel. Tell him what you want. Try to get a feel for
what he is looking for. Express that you need for the
two of you to communicate, the conversation cannot
be a one-sided deal. Walking away from any
relationship no matter the length of time can be hard.
Before you make any final decision, make sure you
can live with that choice.
Wayward love isn’t the only love,
Tia
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